‘Imagine if we all tried to help each other succeed’ …
This was a challenging statement that popped up from a colleague in my Facebook feed recently, to which I replied: ‘Yeah, imagine that’. I was about to add a much longer response, but decided to write this blog post instead. Why?
The statement really hit home to me, and enticed some reflective pondering about why we would need to challenge others to ‘imagine’ that. Then, I realised just how alert my radar has become in spotting the opposite of this.
People who feel the need to shut others out, stomp on their aspirations, and basically, shatter others’ lives; with a ‘kill off all potential threats’ attitude. When did that become an accepted way to behave?
Ironically, this week the Australian Financial Review reported that a global expert who set up the Australian government’s Digital Transformation Office, speaking at their recent Innovation Summit said that Australian entrepreneurs must: ‘learn how to kill off their competition, not collaborate with them’. Really? Can there only be winners and losers in the business world?
Why would we want to have such a constricted view of the world around us? What happened to win/win? Or the notion that together we can achieve more?
As I work with organisations to help them grow and develop dynamic leaders, it is really concerning how often I observe this type of behaviour; even more so, when it is openly displayed from top level positions – the so called ‘leaders’. When did C-suite leadership roles become more about self-preservation and self-indulgence, than the overall success of the organisation and their people?
REAL leaders do not need to destroy the competition to be successful.
Sadly, I have worked with people who feel so impacted by uncertainty and so insecure in their own capabilities to survive, let alone thrive and succeed; that killing off the competition seems to be their default behaviour. They become bullies, predators, and spend so much energy and time on destroying perceived threats.
I wrote a series of blogs earlier this year on such bullying behaviours and what motivates them. It continues to astound me that many don’t realise they are doing this; their behaviour so entrenched that it is not wrong to them – it’s become their ‘normal’. More disturbing is how often others are accepting this as ‘normal’.
The thing is: these people [I can’t refer to them as ‘leaders’], don’t end up achieving much at all for their organisation, their community or society in general. They become so consumed with self-survival and so invested in the fight, that it leaves little time for what they should be doing; inspiring, engaging, connecting, and collaborating with those around them; towards joint success.
REAL leaders are focused on helping others succeed … on encouraging and inspiring future leaders … for the greater good of our society.
I’d like to think that much of our society has moved on from a competitive, dog-eat-dog, mindset; to one of connection and collaboration. A world where we are more socially aware and think more about the longer-term impacts on our society, than just winning today at all costs.
From my observations, those organisations that are succeeding are doing so through building strong alliances, cooperating and collaborating. They are passionately focused on impacting positively on the society, rather than focusing on competing. They don’t need to compete; they are raising the bar and know that it is far better to be known for positive, ethical actions, than negative ones.
Imagine that …
Yes, it is achievable. Connection and collaboration, inspirational leadership, engaging, team-building, coaching and mentoring others; these are all emotional intelligence skills focused on relationship building. Leaders need to have high levels of emotional intelligence competence; we know that because it is so noticeable when it’s lacking.
If you are using up way too much energy and time competing with others, or trying to kill off the competition; STOP IT NOW. It’s exhausting, negative, soul-destroying, and is not a long-term success strategy. It says more about your lack in capability and personal insecurities, than those you try to stomp on. Do something about that.
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